Avoid making requests that are actually demands. Now, you can apply that same approach to listening empathically when others share their observations, feelings, and needs. Just like in expressive communication, when we use NVC to listen to others, we focus on four things: observations, feelings, needs, and requests. Paraphrasing is especially important when someone is expressing powerful emotions because the person is particularly vulnerable.
In that state, empathy is crucial because offering advice or criticism is likely to make someone feel unheard and unsafe. NVC is especially useful for conflict resolution and mediation. Therefore, the goal of conflict resolution in NVC is not compromise. The NVC conflict resolution process has five steps. As noted, the first two steps are reversible. If you find yourself in the role of informal mediator, your first priority is to empathize with the aggressor in the situation assuming there is no immediate threat of physical violence.
If someone is already worked up to the point of shouting, judging their behavior will only escalate the situation and put the other person at risk. Instead, listen for the feelings and needs behind the aggressive behavior and offer empathy for those experiences. Fully expressing anger starts by taking responsibility for it.
To do that, you have to accept that other people are never the true cause of your anger. The process of turning an external stimulus into angry feelings plays out unconsciously, and that anger often disappears when you decide to tune into your needs and emotions instead. For example, if you were unexpectedly fired from your job, you might rage about how your boss is an idiot and attribute your fury to his decision. Find a wealth of activities, exercises, and facilitator suggestions to refine and practice this powerful way of communicating.
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And there is a specific set of skills which makes it much more likely that your efforts will be successful. This book teaches you step by step how to become an effective mediator. Add practice, practice, practice and some self-reflection and you will soon celebrate your first successes in helping people to connect, whether you are a parent, teacher, business manager, counselor or peace worker.
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As a specialist in non-violent communication in all its forms, Marshall B. Rosenberg reveals the secrets of mediation and healthy communication that can help avoid conflict. The author's many observations and public interventions place spirituality at the center of effective non-violent communication. Thus, empathy and compassion must be valued in order to relearn how to communicate.
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